Communication

Communication follows on from Love Relationships and is another very important aspect to a meaningful Relationship and because this is a huge topic there is no way we can do it justice within this page.

It is said that good Communication will only serve to help you fight better; I say ‘what a load of crock’. Most arguments in any relationship occur from the lack of good meaningful Communication and genuine understanding between each other allowing issues to build up until someone explodes or the relationship breaks down completely.

There are just two very important pieces of information I wish to impart to you here which you will find invaluable if you wish to be successful in Communication within your relationship. I want you all to understand that women are people who ‘feel’ and men are people who ‘think’.

Let me explain it this way, usually one person in the relationship can sense when the other has an issue because of a change in mannerism or body language; correct? This then automatically starts Communication with question time by one partner in an attempt to find out what’s troubling the other.

The first question would go something like;

“what’s the matter with you?”

With a response such as;

"nothing"

So how do we get over this hurdle and find out what’s going on when our partner’s body language and manner clearly shows something is wrong?

For good Communication lets firstly go back to the fact that men think and women feel, let's look at it this way; if a woman were to ask a man “what are you thinking” he would probably be able to answer the question. Likewise, if a man asked a woman "what are you feeling or how do you feel" then the lady would be able to answer.

Should the questions be asked in reverse then possibly neither the man or woman would be able to express an answer. This does not mean the women do not think or the men have no feelings, it's just that they find this difficult to express in words.

So what does all this mean? It means that with Communication in a relationship the men should stick to asking the ladies "feeling questions" whilst the women should focus on asking the man "thinking questions"

Interpreting the answers can be difficult but there is an easy way for both parties to do this. (Who said relationships were easy?)

When the man gets an answer he must ask himself;

"What would I be 'thinking' for me to 'feel' that way".

When the woman gets her answer she should ask herself;

"What would I be feeling to think like that?"

By doing this they both interpret the answers into something they both understand making Communication easier.

However, with any Communication in relationships everyone has the same issue of not knowing what questions to ask their partner. Fortunately for us all, there is an excellent resource available which has made this work much easier. It's a book titled ‘1,000 Questions for Couples’ which was originally written for couples thinking of marriage, however, this would be a great tool for anyone whether married or not.

Questions For Couples

In the article Love Relationships, I said sexual relationships are a form of communication seldom recognised by couples.

The spiritual connection in itself draws any relationship closer to the point of being able to know a partner from the inside. If you add this feeling to a Sexual Relationship as a form of Communication you will be totally absorbed into the one flesh and truly become one from the inside communicating love at a much deeper level.

Hopefully the challenges presented help people work to a long lasting relationship through meaningful Communication.